Anonymous asked:

heya, do you have any suggestions or help on fostering positive thinking? My brain is SO ingrained with negative thoughts, stemming from depression, as well as general intrusive ones. Any 'positive thinking' like 'you can do this', 'it'll get better' blahhh just seems like stupid happiness and i groan inwardly whenever i try saying it to myself... it just feels so fake. thank you dear

recoveryisbeautiful answered:

You will groan for a while at positivity, you’ll get used to it eventually though.

Surround yourself with positivity:

  1. notes, posters, messages, quotes, photos… cover your walls, your mirrors, your desk… put positive reminders on your phone, things that will pop up randomly on your laptop, hide them in all of your things so they surprise you next time you go in there
  2. positive music, positive movies, positive books, positive messages everywhere
  3. stay around positive people- positivity can rub off, if you’re around them, you’re more likely to stay positive whereas if you’re around more negative people you will be more likely to be more negative… you’re allowed to drop people from your life… the positive/supportive people are the ones who usually stay
  4. get creative- some kind of journaling or scrapbooking or drawing or anything else but keep it in a positive light (not to say you have to ignore all negative emotions because those need to get out too) but have a ‘positivity project’

When I started doing this, I actually surrounded myself with so much positivity it made me nauseous. I’m not even kidding. I couldn’t stand it.

But now I’m okay with it… and I’ve met new people, some of which are extremely positive, and they rub off on me a little here and there.

Don’t get angry with yourself if you get into a negative place… believe me, I still get there… a lot… and my when I talk to the positive people in my life they always make me feel better, even if just a little. They point things out from their perspective which can be really helpful.

Failure is the chance to do better next time.
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I’m a well known perfectionist amongst my friends and professors. Because of everything going on this semester and for pushing myself too hard I have failed my first class. As a 4.0 student, I am devastated. As a person who already has such negative schemas about myself, I am beating myself up extremely hard for failing…

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, know struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen
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